Steals and Deals

Tea and Sympathy, wood wick, soy wax candles, Mason Jar candle, White Tea, bergamot, mandarin, lemon, ginger, wellness, anxiety relief

$9.80 $14.00


Shipping to United States: $7.00
  • Details
    Tea and Sympathy

    White tea leaves, Bergamot, Mandarin, Lemon, and Ginger scents are blended into our natural soy wax and illuminated with Wooden Wick Co patented wicks for a perfect burn and robust crackle.

    The phrase is chiefly British, old-fashioned for the kind treatment and care that is given to someone who is upset “She could use some tea and sympathy”.

    It was popularized by a 1956 film of the same name based on a stage play by Robert Anderson (you should watch if you’ve never seen it). It was further embedded into American culture by the line in the 1969 song by The Rolling Stones - Let it Bleed -
    “And there will always be a space in my parking lot
    When you need a little coke and sympathy”

    That’s probably way more of a back story to this candle than you needed, I’m not really sure how it became part of my vernacular, but I’ve used it as long as I can remember.

    It’s a simple term that I use someone needs a compassionate ear and maybe some emotional support. I usually refer them to someone else, because I’m just way too matter of fact and blunt and typically say things that aren’t at all what they wanna hear.


    This candle is a nice little supportive hug for yourself or someone who needs it.
    White tea, Bergamot and Chamomile which, by no coincidence, is the exact tea I blend when I feel like I need a little Tea & Sympathy

    For this selection I carefully selected scents with the intention of activating feelings and memories of calm and comfort for those in need of a friend, a moment to regather themselves or the sympathetic presence of a friend.

    Happy scents created with intention and a little magic and of course, science.

    Systems consolidation theory—suggests that our memories start out being processed by a small, horseshoe-shaped brain area called the hippocampus, which adds details to scent inspired feelings, creating memory locators. Theses locators are basically hash tags for memory and feelings.

    Think about how smelling popcorn might bring back memories of going to the movies or ball games as a child, the scent of pine makes us think of Christmas. As a nurse, I’ve seen the results of a patient smelling alcohol and having sudden spikes in the blood pressure, we call this “white coat syndrome”.

    Just walking into a doctors office can cause a level of anxiety to increase. There is direct connection between PTSD and scent. If this area in your brain can cause memories to activate for unwanted feelings, it can be trained to do the opposite, causing happy feelings.

    Over time (especially when we sleep or meditate) the set of brain cells that holds onto a particular memory reactivates and reorganizes these scents with situations that occurred while smelling the scents.
    Sniffing a happy scent when you are calm and controlled and create a memory activator to work as a treatment stressful situations.

    All of that is a long way around telling you to burn candles and lay down a layer of happy scent for your brilliant mind to recall later, when you are not so happy.

    This magical process is the reason many of our scents are available in lotions and sprays as well to allow us to carry that happy scent with us to deflect the BS or stressors we encounter when away from our happy spaces.


    Our ingredients are Responsibly sourced, American grown, Vegan, Carbon Neutral, Cruelty Free and Handmade in Indiana.

    We use a special SOY WAX made from 100% Midwest Soy Beans, grown mainly in Indiana, Illinois and Ohio. Most of these beans were in the field less than a year before you lit the candle made from them. Our soy wax is a renewable and sustainable crop that doesn’t require deforestation or oil supplies, it is only limited by how much our farmers want to grow!

    Our wicks are patented Crackling Wicks from the Wooden Wick Company. American Grown, hand cut WOOD WICKS are made with another business model we support:

    The Wooden Wick Co partnered with TREES FOR THE FUTURE. For Every $100 of Wooden Wicks sold, one tree is planted. This Year to Date, The Wooden Wick Co. & Community has planted 10,000 Trees!

    – Create educational opportunities for children
    – Empower Women
    – Build strong communities
    – Permanently increase the income of farmers
    – Help families to feed themselves
    – Provide permanent and seasonal work

    Our tints are manufactured using vegetable oils or ingredients extracted from vegetable oils. These new formulations are now Prop 65 and REACH Compliant.

    Our jars are sourced from Fillmore Container, a Family owned businesses in Pennsylvania. They are recyclable and reusable!!

    We source biodegradable peanuts (dissolve in water) and post consumer made boxes for our shipping needs. We get these from a family owned business, Brown & Pratt, right here in Indiana, which also saves on shipping costs, reduces carbon output and just makes us feel better about our beautiful packaging.

    We have a way to go, but we are striving to meet our own person goals for a completely locally sourced, handmade, eco friendly craft.

    Our candles are an affordable luxury you can FEEL GOOD about adding to your home. We use simple clean ingredients, minimal labeling and packaging and focus on the product in the jar.
    **PLEASE bear with us while we navigate the pandemic. Our vessels are in a high demand supply chain and our body products might be in different jars, bottles and tins or may have a different colored lid. Our candle lids may be different as well.
    We are doing our best to true to our style while still providing items for you. Our product have not changed only the containers.

    **If the container your lotion, butter or spray is in or the color of your candle lid is important to you, message us BEFORE purchasing for a current picture. **
  • Shipping & Policies

    Shipping from United States

    Processing time

    1 business day

    Estimated shipping times

    • North America : 4 - 6 business days
    • Europe : 10 - 14 business days
    • Australia, New Zealand and Oceania : 6 - 14 business days

    I'll do my best to meet these shipping estimates, but can't guarantee them. Actual delivery time will depend on the shipping method you choose.

    Customs and import taxes

    Buyers are responsible for any customs and import taxes that may apply. I'm not responsible for delays due to customs.

    Payment Options

    Secure options
    • Accepts Etsy gift cards

    Returns & Exchanges

    I don't accept returns, exchanges, or cancellations

    But please contact me if you have any problems with your order.

    Privacy policy

    We never share our shoppers information with anyone.

    Frequently Asked Questions

    How do I trim and light my wood wick?

    Check out our blog for care and burning tips

    If lighting seems difficult, the wick is too far above the surface of the wax when the candle is initially lit. Always light at the wax level, not the top of the wick.

     Solution: Make sure the wick is trimmed to be no longer than 1/8” – 3/16” / 6.4mm – 4.8mm above the wax. This seems counterintuitive, as we think a longer wick will make a larger flame, but it will not. The longer the wick, the harder it is for the wax to flow up to the top.
    (The Wooden Wick patented wood wick company).

    Wholesale availability

    We do not offer wholesale. Our candles are priced at wholesale price points to allow our customers the simple luxury of our candles for everyday use.

    Shipping costs

    We combine shipping upon written request when placed and requested within one hour of each order.

    Are Soy Candles Safe?

    Now let’s talk about wax. Unless you are eating your candles (which you shouldn’t be) you don’t need to worry about them being produced with “Organic Soy wax”. This is good because organic soy wax doesn’t exist.

    The process of converting the oil into a wax itself renders the wax ineligible for organic certification. Even if a manufacture used the 5-9% of soybeans grown in the USA that are Organic Bean, the process itself makes them not organic.
    Should you worry about this? The simple answer is no, soy wax is safe.

    You should worry about a company that claims their soy candles are organic.
    We use wax made with only Midwest Grown Soybeans.

    We use only phthalate free fragrance oils and essential oil blends in our products.

    Return policy

    We do not accept returns or exchanges to ensure each customers order is fresh and new to them.

    We always suggest starting with the smallest size offered on new products to ensure you love it before adding the larger size to your collection.

    We always strive to ensure the satisfaction of our beloved customers. If you have received a damaged item we will help you file your claim with USPS, if you received the incorrect item we will replace it as soon as possible. If you have an issue, please contact us.

    What do I do if my item is received damaged or is lost in transit?

    We are happy to assist you with filing a claim with USPS if you received a damaged item or your package is lost.

    FILING CLAIMS FOR DAMAGES/LOSS is now the responsibility of the customer as USPS has changed their policies and often requires the recipient to present the damaged package along with proof of payment from your financial institute (all things we do not have).

    Note: You must create an account with the USPS if you don’t already have one.

    ***When filing a claim with USPS, the damaged article, container, packaging, and any other items received must be presented to the Postal Service for inspection along with proof of payment from your financial institution. Be certain to safely save the entire box, label and all the contents.**

    Holiday Shipping

    USPS is experiencing critical demand this year and there is the possibility your packages will not arrive in time for your holiday. Etsy provides tracking numbers in your invoice as soon as we print your label and package your order. Please use this to check on your shipment as we can’t possibly respond to all the tracking and shipping questions at this time.

    Return to Sender packages

    Packages received back to us as RTS (Return to Sender) may be resent at your request by purchasing a postage listing customized for your parcel.
    We are not responsible for invalid addresses, forwarded mail or refused parcels and will not refund or pay return shipping.
    We will contact you via messages with a link to the shipping listing which will be active for 30 days.

    Summer Lotion Shipping

    Please see our heat advisory at the beginning of each listing as high temps (80 degrees +) can cause melting, settling and thinning of lotions. Please only purchase if this is a risk you are willing to take. We do have express shipping offered to help prevent heat damage in shipping.

  • Reviews

    Reviews (4)


    Love the scent. You can definitely pick up the tea and ginger. I gave it 4 stars because the wick is very off center. It’s been burning for 4 hours and the melted wax still has yet to reach the edge of the jar on one side. I have many candles from this shop and am usually 100% pleased. UPDATE: Teresa and Gabe went above and beyond to make sure I was completely happy with my candle. It is always such a pleasure purchasing from this shop. They really care about their customers and products!

    LOVED this scent so much!! I can really smell the tea but it is blended with this under note that is so unique--maybe they really do know what sympathy smells like! Highly recommend this scent and this shop on Etsy

    Smells delightful, always a pleasure receiving my orders from this shop.